Wendy often uses the metaphor of a tree to describe a person’s story. Every person’s life starts out a lot like a tree. If you look at a tree and notice that it is not growing the way that you would like, it has to undergo a process of healing – starting at the roots and examining the health of every part of that tree.
The same is true of your own life. In counseling, you will work to examine the roots of your life, the beginnings that have created your foundation. You survey the trunk, or the substance of your life and ask how it has become this way. You look at the branches and leaves to determine where you might need to prune, create change or more growth. And finally you examine the fruit of the tree to assess its overall health and productivity. From the roots to the tips, the tree of your life will tell you exactly where you might need help healing and growing. It will also tell you where you have displayed strengths, character, coping strategies and other exceptional, positive qualities, including a forest of supportive people that have helped you stand strong through the many seasons of life.
Continuing the metaphor of a tree…Couples and families are a forest of unique trees that all have valuable stories. The goal is to help each person reach their potential growth as mentioned above, focus on the positives with one another, learn new skills, build trust, regulate emotional intensity, reach understanding, empathize with one another’s life experience, share fondness and admiration for one another and speak lovingly and respectfully, even during challenging moments.
That is where Counseling with Wendy comes in. Wendy can partner together with you as you assess the overall health of your life and help you to determine those areas in need of healing. She won’t act as a fixer or advice giver. But she will:
- Provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies that are different from talking to a friend or family member.
- Offer a non-biased, educated perspective on a difficult problem you may have or point you in the direction of a solution.
- U se the evidence based tools of the mental health profession to create a customized, goal-oriented plan that can be carried out in a short time frame to bring healing, growth and wholeness.
- Help you to mend, improve and move into the present and into the future with deeper love and respect for yourself and others.
- Counsel from a strengths-based, solution-focused (not problem-focused) perspective.
- Serve as a guide to help you find the best path that works for you on your road to health and recovery.
Remember, life has seasons and no one is exempt from personal struggles from time to time. You can and will come out of this season better than ever if you commit to the process of discovering your own personal healing journey.
Wendy provides comprehensive counseling and psychological services for adolescents, adults, couples and families in the following areas:
General Counseling :
- Anxiety and Stress
- Depression and sadness
- Crisis Intervention
- Adjustment and Life Transition Issues
- Neglect and Abuse Recovery
- Grief and Loss
- Job Stress and Burnout
- Financial Troubles
- Weight Management and Body Image Issues
- Shame, Guilt and Forgiveness
- Anger Management and Conflict Resolution
- Recovering from Divorce
- Relationships, Social Skills,Communication and Boundary Issues
- Discovering an intimate relationship with God that brings peace, clarity and joy
- Spiritual Development
- Personal Development
- Spiritual Guidance
- Marriage and Couples Counseling
- Premarital Counseling
- Recovery from Adultery or a Betrayal
- Sexual Intimacy Challenges
- Divorce Recovery and Separating Well
- Brief couples therapy designed specifically for couples who are uncertain whether they want to continue their relationship. It aims to help partners consider all the options before they make the decision to work on or terminate a relationship.
- Behavior Problems
- Oppositional Defiant Disorder
- Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
- Abuse and Neglect Recovery
- School Challenges
- Sibling Issues
- And other concerns and challenges associated with children and teens
The Benefits of Counseling
The benefits you obtain from therapy depend on how much you put into the process and practice what you learn. Some of the benefits of therapy include:
- Attaining a better understanding of yourself, your goals, and values
- Developing skills for improving your relationships
- Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that led you to seek therapy
- Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
- Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
- Improving communications and listening skills
- Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
- Discovering new ways to solve problems with your family, partner, or work
- Improving your self-esteem and boosting your self-confidence
It is important to understand that you will get quicker and more significant results from therapy if you actively participate in and commit to the process. This includes taking chances, being open, showing up on time and attending sessions regularly, doing the homework and being patient as you allow the process to work. It takes months to unlearn a bad habit, imagine how many years you’ve spent developing some of the relationship dynamics, insecurities, or negative self-talk that may be keeping you from reaching your goals. The purpose of therapy is to educate and help you to bring what you learn back into your life so you don’t need it anymore. Beyond the work we do in your therapy sessions, Wendy is a big advocate for implementation of techniques and homework outside of our sessions together. Since our session is only 50-80 minutes long, the fastest way to see a positive change is to start implementing these skills into your daily life.
Wendy’s Ideal Client Is Someone Who:
- Desires to change but might not know what to do or where to start
- Is taking steps to improve their world and those around them
- Sees inward reflection as beneficial
- Is reliable and committed to meeting together
If you are extremely distraught and in an emergency situation right now, contact 911 first or a loved one who can provide immediate one-on-one support, then let us know of your need as soon as possible after you have been helped by paramedics, hospital personnel or loved ones.